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Semper Me

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Wherever I go, there I am.

I’m pretty sure you can say the same about you. Go check… are you there with you? 

See what I mean? No matter how fast you may try to run from you, you can’t lose you. Look over your shoulder and there she is again!

wherever I go there I am

Running is futile. Resistance, equally so.

Be there for you. You needs you.

Wherever I go there I am

How can you resist you?

Yes, she may be one big hot mess, but what a beautiful big hot mess she is. Give her a hug, dammit!

(This message is brought to you by me. What? You were expecting someone else?)

Book suggestion: Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat-Zinn.

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You Love Me. I know you do.

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Of course you love me.

Seriously, how can you resist? I most certainly can’t resist loving me. Look at that face!

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And there are TEN more excellently fr’awesome good reasons to love me. (As if you even needed them.)

But… even though you may say you love me, is your love unconditional? As in, without conditions?

Or…

Does it depend on whether I stay within the parameters of your idea of how a _____________ (woman, girlfriend, wife, kife loach, Smart Ass, chocolate-lover, worst mother — pick one) should behave? Have I ever let you down? (Probably.) Have I ever disappointed you? (More than likely.) What happens to you when I do?

And why do you let that happen? Yes. YOU.

What? You thought it was my fault?

Why would you let me disappoint you? (Um. If I disappoint you, it’s your fault. So there.)

There’s really nothing I could ever do to let you down. If I let you down, it’s because you had expectations of me that I never promised to live up to. So, technically, you really don’t have a leg to stand on– there’s no excuse to not love me.

Even when crazy things come out of my mouth…

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(Pssst… If I actually do promise to do something and don’t do it, by all means, tackle me to the ground and let me have it… but don’t stop loving me… that would hurt you more than it would hurt me!)

I really don’t want to worry about hurting your feelings. It’s such a slippery slope. I trust myself enough to know that my intentions are always to be as perfect as is imperfectly possible. If I start worrying about pleasing everybody, even you dear reader, then I will get small. I will shrink. You may not even be able to see me anymore.

unconditional love

So. I’m just not gonna worry about it. I’m going to say and do stuff the way I always do. I will probably get it “wrong” sometimes — but that will be up to me to decide. So, if I hurt your feelings, that’s on you. It’s up to you to decide if your feelings get hurt. Which means, I just keep doing my thing and you can just keep on loving me, no matter what. Why not?

What is unconditional love and why should you love me that way?

Well, it most certainly isn’t for my sake. I’m cool with it if you decide to not love me anymore. In fact, you have my permission to not love me. (That would be a huge mistake on your part. Again — look at the face!)

Howevah…. why would you want to do that? That’s not going to be good for you. You don’t love people for their sake, you love them for your sake. You love them because it feels better for you. Because not loving me is going to feel like there’s a great big hole in your heart.

unconditional love

And vice versa. This totally goes both ways. I love you. You don’t have to do anything for me to love you. In fact, you have no say in the matter.

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Why Do You Believe?

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Have you ever questioned your beliefs?

Do you even know what they are?

I’m going to go out on a limb here and take a wild guess that, on your 25th birthday, no one told you that you’re on your own now, your brain is fully developed, and that you can now empty it of all the old software that was downloaded in the previous 25 years.

All the beliefs that you “inherited” from your parents, relatives, siblings, teachers, Tiger Beat, girlfriends, Harlequin romance novels, boyfriends, the Flintstones, the butcher, the baker, the candlestick maker …. are NOT your beliefs. You didn’t proactively choose them. You absorbed them into your psyche. Then you mixed them all together. And this is what you got:

And so I ask you: how is THAT belief working for you? 

Lin Eleoff, The Smart Ass Coach

Let me explain.

You are the boss of your beliefs. They work for you. Their job description is this:

Make the boss feel good. Period. 

Lin Eleoff, The Smart Ass Life Coach

Yep! 

Lin Eleoff, Smart Ass Life Coach

Change your beliefs, Lin Eleoff The Smart Ass Life Coach

My point exactly.

If you believe that Bison make all your dreams come true, that belief is working for you. It is fulfilling the job description that your beliefs must make you feel good. Nothing more is required. Don’t second guess the beliefs that truly make you feel good. Because when you feel good, you do good.

Any belief that doesn’t make you feel good has got to go!

Make sense?

change your beliefs, Lin Eleoff, Smart Ass Self Help with a side of Sarcasm

Justin Timberlake You're Fired

You tell him, mama! 

Have you fired any of your beliefs lately? Tell me which ones, in the comments below!

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